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I’ve just read yet another outraged post about women who breastfeed in public. And yet again, the main thrust of the argument being spouted against it is that it’s disgusting and should be banned, especially when it is done in public, particularly in a cafe of restaurant.

Why?

What’s wrong with it? I’ve seen some truly disgusting things in restaurants such as people who lick their knives, people who chew with their mouth open and people who talk with their mouth full and spray half chewed food and spittle everywhere. Can we ban these people too please?

What does everyone who goes to cafe do when they get there? Have a drink! Eat! Why should a baby be any different? We all need to have regular meals, why should a baby be any different. And the idea that a breastfeeding woman should go to the toilet and feed their baby there – really? Would the people who say that like to eat their dinner sitting on the toilet? No? I thought not, no-one would. If you bottle-fed your baby you have to make sure things are sterilised and clean so you don’t introduce harmful bacteria into the baby’s system yet breastfeeding Mums are often being asked to go to the toilet and fed their child there. Disgusting. What is wrong with people in this country. If the sight of a woman doing something perfectly natural like breastfeeding offends you and disgusts you so much there try this for an idea – look the other way.

I think another report I saw this morning gets right to the nub of the issue. This second report was about a politician in the USA who said that if a woman got out her breasts in public to feed her child then he has the right to grope her. What we have here is a man, and yes, the politician in question was a man, seeing a woman’s breasts as his own personal play thing. Well they aren’t. They have a purpose which is not to entertain and titillate. They have developed and evolved over millennia as a way to nourish the next generation. Breasts are not a sex toy.

And then there was a third report I saw this evening, on the same subject, which angered and upset me more than the other two reports combined.

This report was about a woman who has been sentenced to seven years imprisonment for breastfeeding in public. Seven years. How warped is that? A woman who followed her natural instinct to nourish and nurture her child is being incarcerated for doing so. Granted, there is probably a lot more to the story than has been reported in the press, it may even be a spoof but, even so, if it is true, is imprisonment really a proportionate response? Just the thought that such a story could be given any credance at all is wrong, just the idea that such a story could be written at all says something about the nation where it reportedly happened. Let’s not forget, we’re talking about a country where a young man who sexually abused a young woman, physically assaulted her and left her, battered, bruised and bloodied, behind  rubbish bin in an alley, served just three months of a six month sentence before being released and yet, allegedly, a woman whose crime was to breastfeds her child in public supposedly gets seven years? How can this ever be seen as right. Surely, it can’t. There has to be something seriously wrong with a legal system which could, at least, allow this to happen or which even sees the idea of it happening as right.

The issue of breastfeeding, and breastfeeding in public, is something we all really need to examine again and have a proper, reasoned and rational debate about. There must be a solution that can satisfy everyone. I have to say that one idea I have seen was in the cafe of a well-known Swedish furniture store. There was a special area set aside that had comfy seats, bean bags, tables, armchairs and screens for the use of those people who wanted to breastfeed or bottle feed their child. In my opinion, what a good idea. Granted, not all cafes and restaurants are big enough to have a whole section set aside for breastfeeding Mums but surely, in most places, it must be possible to have a table or tables in a secluded corner where breast-feeding can take place in peace and quiet without anyone complaining. People who don’t like to see babies being fed would know not to sit there and breastfeeding Mums would not feel excluded and isolated. Not only that, but small children, whose presence often annoys other, adult diners, would be able to play and make a mess whilst their parents eat, without upseing anyone else.

We all really need to have a rational and reasonable discussion, find a solution which suits everyone and not stigmatise women doing something perfectly natural as disgusting and wrong. Women who breastfeed are not exposing themselves or flaunting their sexuality, they are simply nourishing their child. That’s all. Nothing more.

And, if you really are someone who really doesn’t like it, I have a simple solution for you – don’t look.

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